I've recently noticed a number of stories in the news about adoptions going wrong and the parents wanting to return the child to foster care. Here are two very different stories... One is about a Dutch couple who want to give back the seven year old they had adopted when she was 4 months old, and the other is about a woman who stuck to the decision she made despite her three abused adoptive daughters who made her life a living hell.
Regarding the first story... What a load of bollocks. How on earth can they argue that the child doesn't fit in when they were the only people to raise her? I think people give up so easily on marriage and child-rearing because they have some misguided conception that it's all sunshine, musical numbers, and rich chocolate Ovaltine. In my opinion, raising a child is a fucking amazing thing for people who a) want kids in the first place, b) are lucky enough to have what it takes to raise one both financially and emotionally, and c) realizes there will always be bumps in the road no matter what you do.
I thoroughly respect the opinions of people who don't want to have kids, and applaud the ones who are safe (ie. contraception, not abortion!) to not have them and not make themselves and their kid miserable. For the ones who accidentally get pregnant and give the kid up for adoption, that's sad, but I respect that decision too... But to adopt a kid as a baby and raise it until it's 7 years old and then want to give it back? What a pair of wankers. One can hope that her going back into foster care may have saved her a life of misery being stuck with a pair of shits who obviously don't love her, but that doesn't change the fact that they're a pair of shits. I wonder how their biological children will feel about the whole story when they grow up and find out about it.
Remember everyone, a child isn't just for Christmas. If the kid's lucky, he'll get to stick around for New Year's too before you kick him out on his ass.
As for the second story, holy Jebus. That poor woman. God knows how freaking annoying teenagers can be, but to try to raise three who had been abused as children must be one of the most emotionally draining adoptions ever. You can't undo something as tragic as that easily, if at all. I'm just grateful for someone like Dawn who is willing to take on a task very few would.